Published in “Greet Ridgefield” and “Greet Felida” magazines January 2026
Welcome to “The Heart of Aging,” where we will dive quickly into educational topics to help us all stay connected, communicate effectively, and thrive as we age!
Checking In with Compassion During the Holidays
The holidays are a time for joy! Families gather, cheer is shared, and favorite traditions—like doing the Holiday Stroll-bring everyone together.
But sometimes, amidst the celebration, it’s easy to notice that a senior citizen we love isn’t quite the same. They seem a little unsteady on their feet, repeat themselves more often, or appear more disoriented than usual.
It’s natural to want to avoid addressing these changes, especially during a special occasion. Yet gently acknowledging what you see can open the door to meaningful connection. The key is to approach the conversation with compassion and empathy—not urgency or judgment.
Here are a few simple ways to create a safe space for conversation:
- Avoid judgment and frustration
- Don’t jump to problem-solving
- Be an active listener
- Be present & make eye contact
If you notice concerning changes, find a quiet moment to check in. You might try:
- “Hey Mom, I’ve noticed ____. How do you feel about that?”
- “I’m sensing you might be feeling a bit overwhelmed — what’s contributing to that today?”
- “Tell me what it’s been like getting around lately — any changes you’ve noticed?”
- “What’s been the hardest part for you lately?”
- “Tell me what it’s like to be ___ years old.”
Each of these open-ended questions invites your loved one to share more than a simple yes or no to express their reality in their own words.
Keep in mind that in adults over 65, certain health issues can appear differently. For example, a urinary tract infection (UTI) can cause not only the usual burning or urgency, but also confusion, delirium, agitation, irritability, dizziness, or fatigue.
The holidays may pass quickly, but our awareness doesn’t have to. Keep noticing, keep reaching out, and keep creating safe spaces for the conversations that matter most.